Elizabeth Gilbert: Committed

Desiring another person is perhaps the most risky endeavor of all. As soon as you want somebody - really want him - it is as though you have taken a surgical needle and sutured your happiness to the skin of that person, so that any separation will now cause you a lacerating injury.

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You can measure the happiness of a marriage by the number of scars that each partner carries on their tongues, earned from years of biting back angry words.

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